What is people pleasing?
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What is people pleasing?

Does it seem that everyone else seems to get their needs met, or gets what they want, and you don’t? Do you sometimes feel frustrated, and resentful in relationships, and you’re not sure why? 

 In this blog, we will be asking: what is people pleasing? 

We will look at the confusion between people pleasing and selfishness, and we’ll explore what function people pleasing serves. We’ll explore why it might have been useful once, and how it is harmful to you now.

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What are the three different types of anxiety?
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What are the three different types of anxiety?

In this blog I will give you a detailed picture of the three different types of anxiety pathways, that can be observed, through the physical symptoms in your body. Once you’re able to distinguish which type of anxiety manifests in you at any given moment, you then have the choice to regulate it. There are distinctly different ways to regulate each different type of anxiety.

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How to reduce anxiety immediately
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How to reduce anxiety immediately

If you suffer from anxiety, you will know how awful it is to live in fear of a panic attack, social situations, or things feeling out of control. In this blog I will explain how to reduce anxiety immediately. This includes understanding the origins of anxiety, and how feelings and anxiety are linked. 

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How to resolve relationship problems without breaking up
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How to resolve relationship problems without breaking up

Have you ever wondered how to resolve relationship problems without breaking up? You might have tried talking but feel as if it creates more conflict and wonder if it’s really worth it. I’m a psychotherapist and I’ve got four steps you can try to help open up conversations and find resolutions, rather than ramp up the conflict.

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How to spot physical symptoms of anxiety
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How to spot physical symptoms of anxiety

If you’ve had anxiety your whole life then it may be hard to know if what you feel is anxiety. In this blog, I’m going to look at what’s happening in your nervous system and body during anxiety, so that you can figure out how to spot physical symptoms of anxiety.

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Do I have trauma or am I overreacting??
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Do I have trauma or am I overreacting??

Sometimes it’s hard to know if you have trauma because you’ve become so accustomed to feeling and thinking in a certain way, and it’s hard to imagine that things could be different. You may know of certain events that were traumatic in your life and for those of you in this category you will know you are dealing with trauma. But for some of us, you may think that everything has been hunky-dory in your life yet not know why you feel anxious, panic, scared socially or frightened of intimacy or in relationships.

So, do I have trauma or am I overreacting?

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10 Grounding Techniques for Dissociation
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10 Grounding Techniques for Dissociation

In this blog, I’ll be talking about how to use 10 grounding techniques for dissociation. Grounding techniques are tools that you can draw on to help stop yourself from dissociating or to bring yourself back into connection with your body if you’ve started to dissociate.

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What is Dissociation in trauma?
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What is Dissociation in trauma?

Have you ever wondered what is dissociation in trauma? It’s a mechanism that happens during trauma, and it’s a symptom that happens after trauma. It happens during trauma in order to help you survive physical or psychological pain and overwhelm. It’s an automatic biological mechanism, that’s beyond your conscious control.

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